One thing that I often sense is how difficult it can be for people to understand is just how bad depression makes you feel. The vast majority of people have days where they feel a bit low, or a bit sad and they don’t know why. Those feelings more often than not disappear after a short time, depression feels like that but multiplied. I’m going to describe the feelings I have been having in the last week or so to try and provide some insight.
I felt the familiar, telltale signs and symptoms coming over me approximately a week ago. I almost smiled to myself and gave them a nod, like you would an old friend in the street. I started to become withdrawn, I felt it, I wanted it. Interactions reduced to mumbles and decreased communication become the norm. I don’t want to make plans, I don’t want to look forward and I don’t want to think about being happy. My mind racing about, darting from one topic to another the only connection is the irrationality of them.
This period has been particularly exhausting, the thought of suicide has invaded my every waking moment. Standing using the toilet, my hand stretched out idly and my brain saw the opportunity. ‘The bath is there. A knife, a hot bath and you peacefully slip away. You won’t feel a thing I promise.’ Just like that, the seed was planted. Could I? Should I? It would certainly put an end to the vicious circle. I fought back, I pushed the thoughts away and I busied myself. I needed to nip out in the car. He’s back. ‘Push the pedal down. Right down. 10 seconds and aim for that tree. Game over. You won’t feel a thing I promise’ I ignored the idea. I turned the radio up and carried on. That’s twice today you have goaded me and I haven’t risen to it. I hope you don’t go for the hat trick. Oh. You did. I stand brushing my teeth. ‘Take those tablets. All of them. Go on, you will slip into a deep sleep and never wake. You won’t feel a thing I promise.’ I finished my teeth and went to bed. No pause, no hesitation, I pushed it away and went to bed. Another day survived.
Pushing those thoughts away multiple times a day, whilst trying to be a normal part of society, working , socialising and interacting. I hate it. I have to carry on though, I have to believe it won’t always be like this. I have to. I need that hope. Any hope.
Thanks for reading.